How did you become a life strategist and book coach?
To answer this question, it’s probably best that I share with you a defining moment, and a resulting “compelling story,” that brought me to where I am today – coaching people like you on exactly what to do to overcome anxiety and know how to trust and follow their inner guidance and discover the courage to be who they are meant to be in the world with greater joy and confidence.
That defining moment in my life happened in March, 2012.
I had filed for divorce and had become a single mom, there was no way back. I had to say goodbye to my five-and-a-half year fairy tale marriage, the fancy house and the happy family dream. We were the best of friends with so much in common for so long – and we had a young son. After years of climbing to the top in my own career with one of the world’s top broadcasting companies, on my personal life things were not going that well, we drifted apart. Three years of therapy couldn’t save it and we went our separate ways, amicably.
I wanted desperately to start over and be there for my son. But my picture perfect plan of being the most amazing single mom turned into a nightmare. I thought I would rebuild quickly and find my north star – but instead I crumbled. At work, I was the professional, perfect, keeping it all together. Inside, I was confused, lonely, sad and depressed. My anxiety grew and I didn’t sleep. My immediate family lived miles away, my mom was in Puerto Rico, and while I had friends who cared deeply about me and me, I was alone for the most part. I was busy trying to “fake it ’til you make it.” But inside, I felt empty. My job wasn’t the only source of my stress – I was also feeling like I was letting down my son. I was so busy trying to survive and make it every day that I started to get sick with candida, thyroid issues and even a bone spur that required surgery.
I had been taking anxiety medication, I thought temporarily. One day, the doctor told me that he wanted to increase my dose. In that moment, I told him “No, the idea is to take less not more!” It was the last time I saw that doctor.
All I kept saying to myself was: “How did my life end up like this?! How did I end up at 38 years old, anxious all the time, feeling like a failure as a mom and wondering whether I was screwing up my son? My corporate job was coming to a close and I needed to do something else – but what? How will I ever figure this out when I’m feeling like I can’t be present to my son or my life? How will I get my way out of this chaos and enjoy life again? What should I do?!”
To top things off, on my personal life, I was struggling to meet the right partner. I kept looking but never finding until one day, after doing some serious spiritual work, my best friend connected me with the most wonderful man I could’ve asked for. I was seeing light at the end of the tunnel, but not quite. I still struggled with anxiety and was taking medication on and off for a couple of years. I didn’t want my meds to run my life and I made a tough decision.
It was time to take things seriously. I decided I was going to take control of my life, and not let circumstances control me. Of course, I had been doing everything that a shrink will ask you to do: I had been reading self-help books, for OVER TEN years, I meditated regularly, practiced yoga and had a healthy diet. What was I missing? I wasn’t following my joy, for one, and I was stuck in a place of boredom and confusion about my career.
Then one cold winter morning it came to me, I would write a book. I felt so inspired to write this book, I woke up every morning spontaneously at 3:15 or 3:45, a voice would call me saying: Write Ada. And so I wrote, and it was hard but this process lead me to heal from my wounds from the past. I had been depressed and confused, trying to date, with no luck, trying to find the next big career feeling like I had little passion, trying to find my way, all the while I wanted to quit my anxiety medication. One day I said, enough. I want to stop taking the medication NOW. And I did. Not everyone in my family and circle of friends was thrilled about my decision to quit my meds, but I was determined.
From that day on I was on fire, a few months later I wrote and self-published my book, and soon after I signed on my first Life Coach client, then another, Bam! My life started to look different now that I knew I could actually HELP other women, I found my calling, I followed my inner guidance and now I was doing what I truly enjoyed. At the same time, my personal relationships continued to expand, my boyfriend proposed on a stunning romantic resort in Riviera Maya. Not only that, I came back from Mexico to new speaking engagements, was hired to offer my communication workshops and share the principles on my book and was invited to speak at the local Rotary Club Chapter.
I went from lonely and anxious to engaged and blissful. My life was finally on track! I now look back at my struggles following my divorce and I can feel that I’ve come full circle. I now teach other women how they can tap into their inner guidance and find confidence in their life story. I’m committed to helping women and mothers who suffer from anxiety heal from this crippling disease, but especially I want to serve women everywhere who might be dealing with the stress and overwhelm that comes with balancing their personal and professional lives. I followed my inner guide and now I want to help other women do the same so they can make their dreams come true!
Since then, I’ve worked with private clients, spoken in front of groups: I lived my dream of becoming an author who is helping others through the messages shared on her memoir; and I have created: Get in the flow and Create the life that you want, a series of modules where I teach you how you can learn how to incorporate new strategies that can lead you to a more full experience as a mom, as a parent, and in your career. In five steps we tackle area of your life where there is a resistance to evolve into the truer version of yourself.
I work with people just like you who are professionals and women entrepreneurs who have a successful life at home but might be yearning for more in their personal life or vice versa. This program is the perfect fit for:
Real Estate Agents
Solo-preneurs on a mission
Although we’ll dive into the things that are getting in the way of having a mindful experience as a mom, we’ll mainly focus on the internal shifts that need to happen so that you can open up and flourish as the true woman that you are. I want you to look back and say, wow! I’m so glad I did this program. Because I’m very spiritual and operate from a place of intuition I will be straight to the point during our sessions. You will get a crystal clear picture of where you are and where you need to be and I’ll guide you every step of the way. To be clear, you might not always like what I have to say but you will be glad that I have told you the truth. It’s key that you see the BIG elephant that is standing in your way of becoming who you are meant to be.
Does this sound like something you’d be interested in? Then send me an email to firstname.lastname@example.org, and schedule your breakthrough call today.
Adacelis (Ada) Pérez, Certified Life Coach and Author of Anxious Mom, Anxious Child: A Mother’s Journey from Anxiety to Serenity.